How To Make Stress Your Friend

Stress. It makes your heart pound, your breathing quicken and your forehead sweat. But while stress has been made into a public health enemy, new research suggests that stress may only be bad for you if you believe that to be the case.

This Ted Talk by Kelly McGonigal really helps you see that the story you tell yourself about what stress means to you can have a big impact on your experience in life. Fanning the flames of contrasting emotions can really do a number on you and cause a lot of stress.  So if stress is stressing you out, it may be time to tell a new story. Watch. Learn. See your life differently.


A person who never made a mistake never tried something new

People tend to make the mistake that mistakes are a mistake. One of the greatest lessons a person can ever learn in their life is that a mistake can really be a starting point. It can be a catalyst for change and growth. The trick is to not allow mistakes to trigger the usual shame, blame and denial emotional patterns, but to see the mistake as an opportunity to “step up” into a new way (more…)

If you get angry easily, it may be because the seed of anger in you has been watered frequently over many years

I just ran across a great article on Pick The Brain featuring 10 Quotes On Anger written by Alden Tan. I’ve featured the first quote in the graphic above:

“If you get angry easily, it may be because the seed of anger in you has been watered frequently over many years, and unfortunately you have allowed it or even encouraged it to be watered.” – Thich Nhat Hanh

We are used to the idea that we can be addicted to things such as drugs, food, shopping, etc., but we can be just as addicted to our emotions by practicing certain emotional patterns (such as anger) repeatedly. I touch on this subject in my new e-book and will be exploring this idea in future posts.

The emotional pattern I’m working on breaking up with is anxiety. Do you have any emotional patterns you are addicted to? Feel free to share your thoughts below.


Breakup University branding

For those of you who are interested, I thought I’d share the meaning behind the Breakup University logo. I’ve spent most of my life designing things and as any good designer knows, when creating a logo you want to embed as much meaning as possible into it (more…)

Learn To Be You


Welcome to Breakup University (BU) where learning to be you is the ultimate focus. This is meant to be a place to learn to become aware of who you think you are rather than what others think you should be. I know I’ve wasted a lot of time worrying about what others think and I’m sure you have too. Together we will learn how to increase awareness around our thoughts, emotions and reactions to what is happening in life.

Continue Reading »