I need validation. I need a hug. I need to be respected and admired at all times. I need a chewy chocolate chip cookie. I need warm fuzzy slippers. I need everyone to notice me and pay attention to me. I need, I need, I need…
Everybody needs something. If you’re fortunate enough to have food, water and shelter, then your needs go beyond survival into the realm of emotion. This realm includes feelings of happiness, sadness, security, love, excitement, awe, jealousy, anger, joyfulness and so on.
The Habit Of Emotion
Just like habits, you will tend to practice some emotions more than others. Some people practice anger more than appreciation. Frustration more than fun. Doubt more than daring. We fall into these emotional patterns to meet our basic fundamental needs. And as a complex emotional being, you have the ability to feel on top of the world one moment and at the end of your rope the next. Welcome to the roller coaster that is your life!
Emotions Are Big Business
The crazy part is that human beings crave the ups and downs in life. How do I know this? The motion picture industry made over 30 BILLION dollars last year. They tell us stories. Very
Something I’ve found to be scary but true is that what we fear most in life is the very thing we MUST do. This is why I love the quote below by Vincent van Gogh and featured it in my last post on doubt. But the thing about this quote is that you need a little motivation to overcome doubt or even plain old laziness. So this week I thought we would look at six mind hacks for motivation.
Let’s Face It—We Humans Are Bizarre
Just when you think you have something figured out, you find out that doing the opposite actually works better. Remember George Costanza on Seinfeld? He never did anything right. So he decided to do everything the opposite
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Are you guilty? Have you been dropping the F-bomb? (Um no, not that F-bomb.) In this “no BS” TED talk, Mel Robbins cuts to the chase about what is really screwing you out of getting what you want.
Are You One Of The 100 Million?
Robbins gives a rather startling statistic that over 100 million Americans are frustrated and bored with their lives. That’s 1 out of 3 people. Really? According to Robbins, it’s possible because of the lack the activation energy or “force” to move out of the automatic pilot part of the brain. Basically, (more…)
Do you ever find yourself trapped in the dismal shadow of doubt? You know that place. It’s where you feel unsure about what you think you should know and what you should be doing. When doubt creeps in, it feels like the solid ground of your self-esteem is slipping away inch by inch. One thing that does feel certain is that everyone else seems to have all the answers.
Three really crappy things about doubt:
The horrible feeling that you don’t know enough about what you think you should know
The “analysis paralysis” that can set in as a result of #1
Not feeling able to make the right decision to move forward because of #2
All of these things can add up to feeling stuck. This really isn’t so bad when you’re solving a
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BJ Davis gives a great talk about his experience with the destructive power of self-doubt. He was close to giving up on life when he was forced to look the truth of who he really was. The person he had become was not matching up to the person he wanted to be. He knew (more…)